By kate, November 20th, 2013
My colleague, Anne, speaks about “noodling” when she has a question that calls her into new territory. I love the image, and want to share the noodling I’ve been doing about leverage points to support non-linear change.
- Faced with a challenge or opportunity, one of the best places to turn is inward, where we can tap the power of intention, perception, intuition and consciousness.
- For example, framing and reframing define the game, and can therefore change the game. The shift to seeing the glass half-full takes a nanosecond and offers much more possibility.
- Clarity about purpose is something rock solid to both anchor to and push off from. When I’m stuck, what helps the most is connecting to the deeper purpose that is calling me forth, or to the deeper purpose of whatever I’m working on. Most groups benefit from revisiting their purpose, and framing it in a way that inspires a big “YES!
- The shift from “self” to “Self” changes everything. Otto Scharmer calls it the shift from “Ego system awareness” to “Eco system awareness”. Lots more of his rich reflections here!
- Our rational logical society steers us away from 99% of the game-changing potential in inner work. This is cause for hope: there is sooo much potential in shifting perspective, choosing trust, coming into alignment with purpose, tapping our intuition, being grateful …
Most of us need reminders or supportive habits to help us remember to use inner work.
Maybe this is a nudge you need!
And what if we join the revolution in consciousness — nudging each other to turn inward, and passing on inner work approaches we find helpful?
By kate, November 15th, 2012
If you have a pattern or block you’d like to transform, consider creating a ritual. Distilling the change you want to make into a rite of passage supports shifts in non-linear and almost instantaneous ways.
Years ago I was in a workshop with the great Jean Houston. The culmination of three days was an invitation to cross a threshold between who I had been and who I might become. We could do this by stepping over a line marked out on the floor by a string of tealights — a ritual of conscious and transformative change.
Who knew that such a simple exercise could be so powerful.
As I come up to the line, all my fears and resistance concentrate in my chest and throat. I stand at the “edge”, gathering myself. I have the distinct experience of energy moving, as though whole complexes and patterns are coming to the surface and breaking up in the face of my intention to transform. With time I feel a readiness — a clarity that I can and should step over the line — and a quiet shift within that I know is a quantum increase in self-authority and self-acceptance. I step over, and instantly there is more space, and more vulnerability. I don’t yet have sea legs in this new ocean of possibility. In a short time though, I stabilize. I am excited. I’ve passed over into a new world.
If you are dogged by a pattern you’d love to shift, I recommend creating a ritual of transformative change for yourself.
Here are the basic elements:
- Name what you want to transform and listen for the new that is seeking to emerge.
- Create a container for yourself — pick a time and place that has meaning, and ask people from your inner circle to join you in the process, or to bear witness. Decide the format — what will represent your threshold?
- Prepare yourself. Before a rite of passage there is an energetic need for a “vigil” — a time of reflection and cleansing that supports one to be ready for transformation.
- Humbly honour your truth at the heart of the ritual: do you commit to what is emerging or not? Only cross over your symbolic threshold if you are truly letting go of the old and embracing the new. This is not a mental shift, but one that happens at the level of deep inner knowing.
- If you cross over, celebrate! There is a reason that marriages and funeral always include food. The “nodal” points where we take a different path need to be marked, and celebrating with food is in our DNA.
You can also honour this basic five step architechture any time you do something new or big, since the newness/bigness involves “stepping over a line”.
I recently facilitated a three day board retreat for a large multi-stakeholder group. In the days before, I allowed myself more quiet time, knowing I was deepening and gathering myself as preparation to hold space for a dynamic group process. Afterwards, I celebrated (a part of the cycle too many of us neglect too often!!).
Creating rituals, and seeing more of what we do through the lens of ritual, are two ways to support transformative change.
By kate, September 20th, 2012
Perhaps you can relate: after the joy and elation when my new book was “done,” I felt lost. My usual clarity about priorities and next steps had vanished.
I felt pressure to be productive — to tackle the next items on my “to do” list. But the times I tried to do a priority task, I felt either like I was spinning my wheels or slogging through molasses.
Then I got it: I’m in transition. Like a caterpillar, I’m morphing from one phase to another — from introverted author to being out in the world. And like a caterpillar, the process needs space and time away from the world of doing and busyness, in the container of a crysalis.
In the midst of the lostness, it felt like forever. I poked and prodded myself, wondering if I was stuck or avoiding something. But there was no point pushing. It just mucked things up. At my wisest, I did simple tasks like updating my mailing list — a modern day equivalent of sorting wheat from chaff.
Some time later, the lostness lifted, effortlessly, like mist dispersing.
Are you (or is someone you love) in transition? Perhaps an outer shift, from one job to another, or an inner shift from one role or phase of life to the next.
If you are like me (and most), you resist dissolving. It’s not comfortable to be so vulnerable. One is also out of step with the tsunami of pressures from the outside: mainstream society expects us to be like machines — producting units of output in a constant stream and at a uniform pace.
It’s important to honour our times of transition. They take us to new and better places in non-linear leaps.
Here’s what I say to myself and others: ”Have patience. Trust the process. It’s great that you are transforming.”
P.S. You can work this one the other way too: give yourself the gift of “crysalis time” by opening up a space in your calendar. There is likely a back log of transitions waiting for a break in the action.
By kate, March 07th, 2012
If we want to be grounded and calm in a crisis, we need to cultivate this capacity, the way a person wanting to climb Mount Everest needs to build up physical and mental stamina.
For years I have used the simple breathing exercise below as part a daily practice of setting my energy and intentions for the day. I also do the practice whenever I feel out of balance or off-centre. I encourage you to try it.
When you experience the immediate benefits — how your energy centres and settles — you might be inspired to take a few moments for this way of breathing before a big phone call, or meeting, or task.
The more you are able to integrate this centring practice into your daily life, the more it will be available to you in a time of crisis. You will have self soothed with figure of eight breathing (or a similar mindfulness practice) for so many smaller storms that it will be your automatic response to bigger ones.
Let me know how you find it.
Figure of Eight Breathing
- Optional: take off eyeglasses, any heavy jewellery, and footwear made of rubber or plastic.
- Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, eyes closed, and your attention on your breath. Sitting or lying down works too, but standing is the easiest way to start.
- Inhaling slowly, bring your awareness to your heart.
- Exhaling slowly, imagine your breath is traveling down the front of your body and penetrating to the centre of the Earth.
- Inhaling slowly, imagine you are drawing energy up from the centre of the Earth and up the back of your body, and into your heart.
- Exhaling slowly, imagine that your breath is going from your heart up the front of your body as high as it can go – to Ether, the stars, heaven – whatever works for you.
- Inhaling slowly, imagine you are drawing energy down from above, down the back of your body and into your heart.
- Repeat this “figure of eight” as long as feels right – perhaps 5-20 cycles at the beg
inning. When you are familiar with this practice, four or five cycles is enough to feel quite grounded.
To start, I suggest tracing the figure of eight shape with one hand, as a way to help your awareness move.